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Should thinking of someone else while being intimate with your partner be considered cheating?
Now, the reason I ask this is that there is a lovely lady I work with who may be having a 'psychic affair' with yours truly. I don't want to cause any harm to her relationship by continuing to be a sexy distraction. For all I know, this sexual dissonance has already caused major rows.
I know I've thought about a lot of different things when 'on the job', like what to have for dinner, what I really should have said in that meeting, etc. But none of those things would be considered being unfaithful.
Am I wrong to be concerned?
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footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
As mentioned on this site a few times with your uncanny Boris Johnson lookalike looks this attraction from the opposite sex will be a problem for you for years.
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Here's a quandry on 18:55 - Jul 11 with 2581 views
As mentioned on this site a few times with your uncanny Boris Johnson lookalike looks this attraction from the opposite sex will be a problem for you for years.
Thanks, mate. Good to know there are people out there who understand the hardships of irresistability. It's just her husband I feel sorry for.
footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
J2, what happened? We were enjoying a very nice, friendly relationship up until now. Thought we'd made peace? Though I don't know what your problem with me was in the first place tbh.
It may have been a slightly jokey post, but there is honestly a woman I'm becoming mutually attracted to at work and I feel a bit bad/weird about it. Would love to book a private meeting with her in the disabled bogs but that can't ever happen, despite how tempted either of us are.
But the question remains, is visualising someone else while on the job with your soulmate infidelity?
footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
J2, what happened? We were enjoying a very nice, friendly relationship up until now. Thought we'd made peace? Though I don't know what your problem with me was in the first place tbh.
It may have been a slightly jokey post, but there is honestly a woman I'm becoming mutually attracted to at work and I feel a bit bad/weird about it. Would love to book a private meeting with her in the disabled bogs but that can't ever happen, despite how tempted either of us are.
But the question remains, is visualising someone else while on the job with your soulmate infidelity?
If it is then I doubt there has ever been anyone faithful.
I'm finding the concept of a 'soulmate' more and more of a myth to be honest. The idea that you fall in love, get married, be faithful forever and live happily ever after with a soulmate is clearly a load of sh1t. No offence to anyone who does actually believe they are with their soulmate.
If it is then I doubt there has ever been anyone faithful.
I'm finding the concept of a 'soulmate' more and more of a myth to be honest. The idea that you fall in love, get married, be faithful forever and live happily ever after with a soulmate is clearly a load of sh1t. No offence to anyone who does actually believe they are with their soulmate.
Of course it is a myth if you believe in some sort of 'destiny', which is clearly nonsense.
We have very special, happy coincidences, but that is not destiny. Ultimately, a 'soul mate' is a best friend you can shag. End of.
footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
Of course it is a myth if you believe in some sort of 'destiny', which is clearly nonsense.
We have very special, happy coincidences, but that is not destiny. Ultimately, a 'soul mate' is a best friend you can shag. End of.
In fact i'm starting to question marriage as well. Actually that's not true, i'm questioning everything. The traditional path of career, marriage, kids. What's the point? Probably for another thread, sorry.
In fact i'm starting to question marriage as well. Actually that's not true, i'm questioning everything. The traditional path of career, marriage, kids. What's the point? Probably for another thread, sorry.
As you should. Marriage, be it gay, straight or other, is a religious institution foisted upon society. If you are not religious, why marry aside from tax privileges/law?
Symbolically, marriage represents both the exchange of women as goods and patriarchal governance.
All this was well and good when people lived to be 45, but we are in a new world now. Couples get bored, understandably. Time to think on our relationships and our understanding of what marriage really is.
footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
No idea when I began here, was a very long time ago. Previously known as Spirit_of_81. Love cheese, hate the colour of it, this is why it requires some blue in it.
Duly noted and amended. My apologies for the mistake.
Friday, the final hurdle in the week-long illicit lust marathon that is my working life. Eight more hours of wild passion to withstand. Pray for my colleague and her husband, TWTD.
footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
Duly noted and amended. My apologies for the mistake.
Friday, the final hurdle in the week-long illicit lust marathon that is my working life. Eight more hours of wild passion to withstand. Pray for my colleague and her husband, TWTD.
Duly noted and amended. My apologies for the mistake.
Friday, the final hurdle in the week-long illicit lust marathon that is my working life. Eight more hours of wild passion to withstand. Pray for my colleague and her husband, TWTD.
Update:
The lady in question is not in the office today. Hopefully she's spending the time working on her relationship with her husband, instead of further indulging in this psychic affair.
Relief that I'll finally be able to get some work done without worrying about her rampant libidinal urges.
footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
There's millions of guys and gals out their and you wanna bang one who''s got a poor fella at home!
Not worth the rubber you'd finish in lad.
That's not saying you can't have a cheeky flirt with her!
Think you've got the wrong end of the stick here, bud. It's her who wants to have it with me, and I'm trying to find a way of limiting her attraction, in a bid to save her marriage.
footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
Think you've got the wrong end of the stick here, bud. It's her who wants to have it with me, and I'm trying to find a way of limiting her attraction, in a bid to save her marriage.
Discuss the finer uses of Latin tense progression when reporting indirect speech first thing every morning.
Discuss the finer uses of Latin tense progression when reporting indirect speech first thing every morning.
Honest, my wife can't even look at it now.
An excellent suggestion. Also good cause to brush up on my Latin. Although as an Italian herself, I'm not sure if she'd be too familiar with this already.
footers KC - Prosecution Barrister - Friend to all
Think you've got the wrong end of the stick here, bud. It's her who wants to have it with me, and I'm trying to find a way of limiting her attraction, in a bid to save her marriage.
Na I get that. It takes two to tango and all that. You've obviously had a flirt with her, which is exactly what I'd do.
I've always thought that if she'd do it to him, she'd do it to you kinda thing. So probably well worth a squirt but not anything longer term.
That being said, a cheeky rump in the work toilets wouldn't hurt anyone!
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