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Reply | TLA (Oz): RIP
at 09:33 19 Aug 2020
I can't believe it's been two years - it's a real cliche but it feels like forever ago and last week simultaneously. I'd like to thank Swailesy, Newcy, Hoppy and Lagos for their ongoing support and friendship. Really looking forward to seeing you all for a pre-match drink when life returns to normal! |
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Thread | TLA - Keeping His Legacy Alive
at 18:41 14 May 2019
Hi everyone,
For those of you who knew TLA (Oz), today would have been his birthday. I know he supported a lot of members with their own mental health, and many of you may know he set up a company with his friend Nick, to promote mental health in the community. One of their projects was the 12th Man, a project to encourage men to talk about their feelings, and to train various service providers (they started with barbers) to support their customers and create safe spaces for men to talk.
Since Oz's death, Nick has worked really hard to keep 12th Man going, taking it in new directions and generally developing the project in a way Oz would be immensely proud of (and slightly miffed that he hadn't thought of!). If you'd have wished Oz a happy birthday, please consider making a small donation to 12th Man to allow Nick to carry on this brilliant work and keep Oz's memory alive.
Here's a link to the 12 Man website. For those of you who knew Oz on here but never met him, he's the handsome b*stard in the black polo shirt.
https://12th-man.org.uk/
Keep looking after each other.
Lisa (Oz's wife)
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Reply | Did my usual Christmas Day visit
at 19:43 25 Dec 2018
Thanks so much for thinking of me, Hoppy, in the midst of your own grief. It's been a tough day, but made all the more bearable by the kindness of my lovely friends. Had a walk on the beach this morning, and scattered some of TLA's ashes - he absolutely loved a Christmas walk on the beach, so it felt right.
Wishing lots of love and peace to you, and to anyone else who is missing someone this Christmas xx |
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Reply | Christmas Confession Time
at 13:08 19 Dec 2018
1. I have watched It's a Wonderful Life, and thought it the biggest pile of sappy toss I'd ever seen.
2. Although I'm apparently a fairly well-educated 'lady', TLA bought me a copy of the Viz annual for Christmas every year.
3. My Christmas tipple is Taboo (sickly peachy girly drink from the 80s).
4. A few years ago, I ate so much on Christmas Day I didn't have any room for booze, and actually cried.
I do know what happened on Boxing Day though. |
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Reply | Some very sad news
at 22:03 13 Oct 2018
I'm so sorry to hear this. As many others have said, your dad's attitude towards his terminal diagnosis was nothing short of inspirational.
Sending lots of love to you, your family and his friends. Take good care of each other xxx |
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Reply | TLA: RIP
at 20:42 14 Sep 2018
Thanks so much for sharing this, chrisswailes. Even though it says the evening part is 'private', everyone's welcome, especially the TWTD family! It'd be great to see some of you there. |
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Reply | TLA: RIP
at 22:27 19 Aug 2018
Thank you all so much for the beautiful messages and your good wishes for me. Oz genuinely was a hero to me and to many, many other people. His passing was very peaceful, and surrounded by friends - about as good as it can get.
I've had to give up our season tickets (for both financial and emotional reasons), but I'm hoping to be back at Portman Road soon and would love to meet up with anyone who wants to raise a glass to him.
He died at about 2.45pm on Saturday. In a very rare lie from me, I had told him earlier that we had the early game and had beaten Villa 5-0. I hope he heard that and didn't recognise it for the complete fabrication it was! I was hoping Town would make good on it, but apparently they have absolutely no sense of occasion. |
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Reply | TLA - Appreciation Thread/Book *update*
at 13:16 11 Aug 2018
As cool as it would have been for his first word to be something profound, I think it was actually 'yeah'. He also managed to have a good moan about the tube in his nose, along with some soppy stuff I forced him to say. He was quieter yesterday, and very sleepy this morning, but he is still aware of what's going on and knows who's been to see him and what they've talked to him about. I think his brain function is fine (apparently there's a big risk to it if you're sedated for any length of time).
In terms of immediate concerns, he's now very stable but has a mild temperature, which they're keeping an eye on. He really has defied the odds to make it through those first few days. Longer term, there's still no output from his kidneys, and we're not sure about the liver. He'd hate me telling you all this - he's really private about his health, but I'm in charge now!
I had the most beautiful bunch of roses delivered to me about an hour ago, from all you lovely people on here. I can't thank you enough for your kindness - that really was a wonderful surprise. I've taken a photo of them to take to show Oz this afternoon (now I've remembered to take his glasses in so he has a chance of seeing something when he's awake!) so he can see how amazing you're all being and how well people are looking after me. I know it'll mean the world to him, as it does to me. |
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Reply | TLA - One of our own is critically ill: Appreciation Thread/Book
at 21:33 7 Aug 2018
Hi folks,
It's been lovely reading all the updates to this thread tonight, and I love the idea of the book!
Dolly - your poem was outstanding. Oz is actually quite obsessed with The Wizard of Oz, and who doesn't like the word 'ok'?? You should maybe be in advertising or something...
The only update I have this evening is that there's no change. He's still 'comfortable', still sedated and still critical. Still fighting though! |
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Reply | TLA - One of our own is critically ill.
at 23:01 5 Aug 2018
It's been lovely to read all your messages on here, and I read them out to Oz this afternoon, just to remind him what a popular b'stard he is! He's still in pretty much the same condition - critical but stable - but he's receiving really good care and seems to be holding his own.
It's crazy how quickly life can turn upside-down - we spent last weekend in Ipswich (we live in the badlands), went to the Wham game, met the lovely chrisswailes for a pint and everything was fine. We had no idea he had any liver problems until Wednesday when this all started.
Anyway, enough rambling. Thanks again for all the messages - between chrisswailes and I we'll keep you updated. |
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Reply | TLA - One of our own is critically ill.
at 11:42 5 Aug 2018
Hi folks, Lisa, Oz (TLA)'s wife here. Really appreciate all the messages - will go and read them out to him in a minute. For all of those saying he's been kind, supportive and seems like a really good bloke you're completely right - what you see is completely what you get! I know I'm biased, but he is an absolute inspiration of a man. He's been my best friend and hero for 26 years, and from the amount of well wishes and visitors he's had suggests he means a lot to everyone.
He's currently stable but highly critical. They think it's a liver problem which caused huge internal bleeding. They're unable to investigate the cause at the moment as their main concern is keeping him alive.
I'll do my best to keep everyone updated. He's completely sedated but we were able to bring a radio in to his room yesterday to listen to the game. I was with him when we scored after 5 mins and had to apologise to the nurse for shouting so loudly! |
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Reply | If the BBC's researchers can find them...
at 10:11 7 Oct 2017
This is something I deal with at work, and a real problem in Norfolk. The kids who are the runners are hard to track down, mostly because they're stealing cars and couriering drugs to other parts of the country (mostly Hull and Peterborough from here). They can disappear for weeks at a time. The gang members who are coming up from London hide out in other people's houses ('cuckooing') and don't tend to take many risks themselves. once they've brought the drugs up. The big boys in London are so far removed from the actual movement of drugs that pretty much no one, least of the police, know who they are. The kids who are runners are generally treated as victims until they get too deeply entrenched in it.
Nasty business all round - exploitation of young people, intimidation of vulnerable tenants (usually addicts, prostitutes or those with severe mental health or learning difficulties), use of weapons and a strong link with sexual abuse of young women. |
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