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Here's a quandary 11:11 - Jul 11 with 4009 viewsfooters

Part #673264 of the TWTD Moral Maze...

Should thinking of someone else while being intimate with your partner be considered cheating?

Now, the reason I ask this is that there is a lovely lady I work with who may be having a 'psychic affair' with yours truly. I don't want to cause any harm to her relationship by continuing to be a sexy distraction. For all I know, this sexual dissonance has already caused major rows.

I know I've thought about a lot of different things when 'on the job', like what to have for dinner, what I really should have said in that meeting, etc. But none of those things would be considered being unfaithful.

Am I wrong to be concerned?
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Here's a quandry on 11:13 - Jul 11 with 1657 viewsMarshalls_Mullet

So...

Is she thinking of you?

Or

Are you thinking of her?

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Here's a quandry on 11:14 - Jul 11 with 1655 viewsJ2BLUE

I doubt Spruce cares mate, he's thinking of wkj anyway.

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Here's a quandry on 11:15 - Jul 11 with 1641 viewsfooters

Here's a quandry on 11:13 - Jul 11 by Marshalls_Mullet

So...

Is she thinking of you?

Or

Are you thinking of her?


She is thinking of me I should imagine. I do not have a significant other so cannot cheat.

I like her a great deal but feel the odd pang of guilt when I see her mentally sizing me up.

"We need a man in charge of boys, they wont like it up em, but they'd rather it be coming from their gaffer than those broom wrangling wannabes in league 1."
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Here's a quandry on 11:17 - Jul 11 with 1629 viewsfooters

Here's a quandry on 11:14 - Jul 11 by J2BLUE

I doubt Spruce cares mate, he's thinking of wkj anyway.


Please read the OP properly and don't resort to 'clever' personal attacks. Thought you were better than that.

I await a mature reply.

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Here's a quandry on 11:19 - Jul 11 with 1610 viewsJ2BLUE

Here's a quandry on 11:17 - Jul 11 by footers

Please read the OP properly and don't resort to 'clever' personal attacks. Thought you were better than that.

I await a mature reply.


Personal attacks

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Here's a quandry on 11:24 - Jul 11 with 1582 viewsWeWereZombies


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Here's a quandry on 11:25 - Jul 11 with 1582 viewsgiant_ullaa

Borderline, I'd say, but thats not very helpful.

Has she told you she thinks of you while shagging her fella? Pretty full on if so.

Has anyone ever looked at their own postings for last day or so? Oh my... so sorry.
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Here's a quandry on 11:26 - Jul 11 with 1577 viewsfooters

Here's a quandry on 11:19 - Jul 11 by J2BLUE

Personal attacks


Well, you came charging into a reasonable thread with what could be seen as a homophobic insult to myself and two others who are not here. No need to apologise but please ensure it doesn't happen again.

This morning the lady in question led me to her desk and paraded me like a shire horse in front of another colleague. I would have taken her to the stationery cupboard there and then had I not been a man of morals.

Hopefully now you realise the gravity of the situation.

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Here's a quandry on 11:28 - Jul 11 with 1561 viewsJ2BLUE

Here's a quandry on 11:26 - Jul 11 by footers

Well, you came charging into a reasonable thread with what could be seen as a homophobic insult to myself and two others who are not here. No need to apologise but please ensure it doesn't happen again.

This morning the lady in question led me to her desk and paraded me like a shire horse in front of another colleague. I would have taken her to the stationery cupboard there and then had I not been a man of morals.

Hopefully now you realise the gravity of the situation.


Whatever.

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Here's a quandry on 11:25 - Jul 11 by giant_ullaa

Borderline, I'd say, but thats not very helpful.

Has she told you she thinks of you while shagging her fella? Pretty full on if so.


I think the behaviours she is displaying would indicate just that. It must be difficult to work with someone so sexually magnetic. I may have to speak with HR or change jobs for the sake of her marriage.

"We need a man in charge of boys, they wont like it up em, but they'd rather it be coming from their gaffer than those broom wrangling wannabes in league 1."
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Here's a quandry on 11:36 - Jul 11 with 1532 viewsWeWereZombies

Here's a quandry on 11:29 - Jul 11 by footers

I think the behaviours she is displaying would indicate just that. It must be difficult to work with someone so sexually magnetic. I may have to speak with HR or change jobs for the sake of her marriage.


I think you are very wise to think ahead and consider the consequences. Here is some more of one of my favourite 1960's Czech films (although unfortunately not the bit about thinking of football to prevent premature ejaculation, I only mention this as a sop for the regret that you will feel at being unable to change the category of this thread from 'general') to underline the importance of a modicum of reserve, but you will have to lie about your age to watch it:


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Here's a quandry on 11:37 - Jul 11 with 1529 viewsgiant_ullaa

Here's a quandry on 11:29 - Jul 11 by footers

I think the behaviours she is displaying would indicate just that. It must be difficult to work with someone so sexually magnetic. I may have to speak with HR or change jobs for the sake of her marriage.


ha!

She's married too? Blimey, so she can't just go and ditch the looser quicktime then. I feel for you - must be tough being adored like that - lots to live up to. Go easy on her and try to make sparing use of your charismatic power.

Has anyone ever looked at their own postings for last day or so? Oh my... so sorry.
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Here's a quandry on 11:40 - Jul 11 with 1506 viewshampstead_blue

Crack-on Footers, just make sure you don't blurt out the wrong name at an explosive moment........

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Here's a quandry on 11:44 - Jul 11 with 1490 viewsfooters

Here's a quandry on 11:37 - Jul 11 by giant_ullaa

ha!

She's married too? Blimey, so she can't just go and ditch the looser quicktime then. I feel for you - must be tough being adored like that - lots to live up to. Go easy on her and try to make sparing use of your charismatic power.


Thanks, mate- very good advice. I'll see what letting the old personal hygiene standards slip will do. No doubt the pheromones will only increase the sexual tension knowing my luck.

"We need a man in charge of boys, they wont like it up em, but they'd rather it be coming from their gaffer than those broom wrangling wannabes in league 1."
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Here's a quandry on 11:45 - Jul 11 with 1484 viewsfactual_blue

Here's a quandry on 11:17 - Jul 11 by footers

Please read the OP properly and don't resort to 'clever' personal attacks. Thought you were better than that.

I await a mature reply.


You've wrongly used the word 'clever' in a sentence about J2.

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Here's a quandry on 11:45 - Jul 11 with 1482 viewsfooters

Here's a quandry on 11:40 - Jul 11 by hampstead_blue

Crack-on Footers, just make sure you don't blurt out the wrong name at an explosive moment........


If I shout out her husband's name at the point of issue that may well even things out somehow. One to ponder, certainly...

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Here's a quandry on 11:37 - Jul 11 by giant_ullaa

ha!

She's married too? Blimey, so she can't just go and ditch the looser quicktime then. I feel for you - must be tough being adored like that - lots to live up to. Go easy on her and try to make sparing use of your charismatic power.


'Loser', you looser.

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Here's a quandry on 11:46 - Jul 11 with 1479 viewsfooters

Here's a quandry on 11:45 - Jul 11 by factual_blue

You've wrongly used the word 'clever' in a sentence about J2.


Inverted commas do all the work here, my friend.

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Here's a quandry on 11:48 - Jul 11 with 1464 viewsfactual_blue

Here's a quandry on 11:46 - Jul 11 by footers

Inverted commas do all the work here, my friend.


'Fair' point.

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Here's a quandry on 11:48 - Jul 11 with 1464 viewsgiant_ullaa

Here's a quandry on 11:46 - Jul 11 by factual_blue

'Loser', you looser.


pendant off.

Has anyone ever looked at their own postings for last day or so? Oh my... so sorry.
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Here's a quandry on 11:49 - Jul 11 with 1457 viewsPendejo

"Psychic affair"... In other words... All in your mind.

No verbal exchanges or physical contact claimed.

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Here's a quandry on 11:54 - Jul 11 with 1423 viewsWarkTheWarkITFC

Assuming this is genuine (I have my doubts) then presumably there are ways you can steer clear of this person? After all, if you were at all interested in pursuing a married woman I assume you'd have already have done so.

I worked with a girl once who was in an unhappy relationship. She had my number, as most of us had each others numbers at work and one year after a Christmas party, where I'd never even spoke to her, she rang me after she'd got home asking if she could come to my place and telling me her boyfriend was asleep.

I declined and asked what on earth she thought she was doing. Hung up.

On the Monday morning, her bloke was waiting to punch my lights out. Fortunately I walked in with two mates which stopped it getting physical. He'd apparently woken up, heard her speaking to some bloke saying she was going to sneak round and he'd then had a row, taken her phone, saw my number.

I had literally no involvement with her ever and didn't even know she really knew of me, aside from being one of 30 people in the same office. The boyfriend started sending me threatening texts, turning up outside work, all sorts. She had told him the truth but he refused to believe I had played no part in it.

I guess if it can get that messy when you're not even aware you're involved then I dread to think what happens if you in anyway encourage it.

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Here's a quandry on 11:57 - Jul 11 with 1407 viewsfooters

Here's a quandry on 11:54 - Jul 11 by WarkTheWarkITFC

Assuming this is genuine (I have my doubts) then presumably there are ways you can steer clear of this person? After all, if you were at all interested in pursuing a married woman I assume you'd have already have done so.

I worked with a girl once who was in an unhappy relationship. She had my number, as most of us had each others numbers at work and one year after a Christmas party, where I'd never even spoke to her, she rang me after she'd got home asking if she could come to my place and telling me her boyfriend was asleep.

I declined and asked what on earth she thought she was doing. Hung up.

On the Monday morning, her bloke was waiting to punch my lights out. Fortunately I walked in with two mates which stopped it getting physical. He'd apparently woken up, heard her speaking to some bloke saying she was going to sneak round and he'd then had a row, taken her phone, saw my number.

I had literally no involvement with her ever and didn't even know she really knew of me, aside from being one of 30 people in the same office. The boyfriend started sending me threatening texts, turning up outside work, all sorts. She had told him the truth but he refused to believe I had played no part in it.

I guess if it can get that messy when you're not even aware you're involved then I dread to think what happens if you in anyway encourage it.


Blimey! What happened in the end? If he refuses to believe the truth (which I can see why) then surely the situation continued?

And why do you have doubts? Are you implying I'm unattractive?

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Here's a quandry on 12:30 - Jul 11 with 1344 viewsMarshalls_Mullet

Here's a quandry on 11:15 - Jul 11 by footers

She is thinking of me I should imagine. I do not have a significant other so cannot cheat.

I like her a great deal but feel the odd pang of guilt when I see her mentally sizing me up.


I can only feel sorry for her, she's in for such disappointment ;-)

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Here's a quandry on 12:34 - Jul 11 with 1337 viewswkj

Here's a quandry on 11:14 - Jul 11 by J2BLUE

I doubt Spruce cares mate, he's thinking of wkj anyway.


I thought you said you were done playing games, this isn't very hospitable behavior. Disappointing.

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