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TWTD dads... 12:45 - Nov 20 with 17592 viewsSitfcB

As some of you know I'm going to be one myself soon (In the next week or two, still scary to think, I know!)

Now, I just want to know the 'protocol' as such on still partaking in let's say, leisure activities, not necessarily football but mostly football haha.

Obviously I know I have to rein the football in a bit, especially the socialising before/after a home game, but I have booked up Sunderland away as a weekend away in Newcastle at the start of Feb, would you say this is too early to be away from mother and baby? She's obviously not happy about this and I've tried to justify it, and say she can have a weekend away or whatever.

Obviously a lot of you have experience on this and some of you still went away/to football when you had newborns?
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TWTD dads... on 13:21 - Nov 20 with 4882 viewshoppy

TWTD dads... on 12:55 - Nov 20 by Bluebell

Here is a female response.

Does your partner have someone who can move in with her while you are away? Nothing better than having a parent or best friend there to help out as babies are very time consuming. She may even prefer that!

If that is the case and she doesn't mind then I say go for it.


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TWTD dads... on 13:25 - Nov 20 with 4876 viewsitfcjoe

Give and take, but think away games become a problem as are a long day generally, and maybe with home games you either go out before the game or after rather than both!

If I have footy I always try and do something on the Sunday with other half and little one to make up for it - nothing major but it all works out ok generally

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TWTD dads... on 13:25 - Nov 20 with 4863 viewsPJH

TWTD dads... on 13:19 - Nov 20 by hoppy

Indeed. Yasmin had her season ticket from about 4 days old. It would've been sooner, but the ticket office wouldn't accept that she existed until we had the birth certificate, even though I had her in a baby carrier on my chest at the time.

Her first away game was away at Leicester at about 11 or 12 weeks old.


Surprised you didn't say that my son was a bit old to be a Junior Blue at 36-I would have done.
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TWTD dads... on 13:26 - Nov 20 with 4866 viewsPrideOfTheEast

I had a little one 7 weeks ago. I managed to get to the Norwich game and the Preston game but drove both times.

A lot depends on who you’ve got around you. If her mum etc are around then I don’t see an issue with it. Take a day or two off work around the same time and be at home for those.
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TWTD dads... on 13:27 - Nov 20 with 4853 viewshomer_123

'I have booked up Sunderland away as a weekend away in Newcastle at the start of Feb'

Anyone know a lawyer?

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TWTD dads... on 13:28 - Nov 20 with 4851 viewsSitfcB

TWTD dads... on 13:26 - Nov 20 by PrideOfTheEast

I had a little one 7 weeks ago. I managed to get to the Norwich game and the Preston game but drove both times.

A lot depends on who you’ve got around you. If her mum etc are around then I don’t see an issue with it. Take a day or two off work around the same time and be at home for those.


Yeah will have the Friday and Monday off, so about Friday morning, half of Sunday and all of Monday.

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TWTD dads... on 13:29 - Nov 20 with 4844 viewsC_HealyIsAPleasure

Firstly congrats and I know the feeling - my first one is due shortly too (2nd December due date)

Obviously I have no experience to draw on but the advice to wait and see how you feel when the baby arrives seems sound - I’m happy to admit I have no idea exactly what it will be like and that I’ll have to see how some things pan out

One thing to consider is really how important that weekend is compared to other things that may be coming up. It sounds like you’ve accepted you need to reign it in, so you’d be wise to pick and choose your battles. Mine is bad timing in some respects - I have 3 stag dos to go on next year (my own plus 2 of my best friends) which I can’t envisage missing so am fully accepting any other nights out are going to be few and far between

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TWTD dads... on 13:30 - Nov 20 with 4832 viewshoppy

TWTD dads... on 13:25 - Nov 20 by PJH

Surprised you didn't say that my son was a bit old to be a Junior Blue at 36-I would have done.


But you'd stated it was within 24 hours of his birth, and I assumed he wasn't born a 36 year old...

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TWTD dads... on 13:32 - Nov 20 with 4824 viewshomer_123

TWTD dads... on 13:29 - Nov 20 by C_HealyIsAPleasure

Firstly congrats and I know the feeling - my first one is due shortly too (2nd December due date)

Obviously I have no experience to draw on but the advice to wait and see how you feel when the baby arrives seems sound - I’m happy to admit I have no idea exactly what it will be like and that I’ll have to see how some things pan out

One thing to consider is really how important that weekend is compared to other things that may be coming up. It sounds like you’ve accepted you need to reign it in, so you’d be wise to pick and choose your battles. Mine is bad timing in some respects - I have 3 stag dos to go on next year (my own plus 2 of my best friends) which I can’t envisage missing so am fully accepting any other nights out are going to be few and far between


It's the best thing in the world to happen to you and you will come to understand the meaning of the word 'tired'. In fact, you will be constantly amazed and just how little sleep you can get 'by' with.

I say get 'by' you just about exist. Enjoy.

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TWTD dads... on 13:33 - Nov 20 with 4818 viewshomer_123

TWTD dads... on 13:28 - Nov 20 by SitfcB

Yeah will have the Friday and Monday off, so about Friday morning, half of Sunday and all of Monday.


So, you'll learn to understand that there is no 'time off' once you have kids. It's 24/7 365 days of the year.

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TWTD dads... on 13:34 - Nov 20 with 4812 viewshomer_123

Congrats by the way....life changing, enjoy it. Really, just try and take it all in and enjoy as much as you can.

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TWTD dads... on 13:37 - Nov 20 with 4803 viewsBurwell_Blue

TWTD dads... on 13:28 - Nov 20 by SitfcB

Yeah will have the Friday and Monday off, so about Friday morning, half of Sunday and all of Monday.


Wasting two days annual leave to go out on the piss with your mates is going to become a rarity.
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TWTD dads... on 13:38 - Nov 20 with 4797 viewsBOjK

It is true what they say. The first 18 years are the worst.

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TWTD dads... on 13:38 - Nov 20 with 4797 viewsSitfcB

TWTD dads... on 13:29 - Nov 20 by C_HealyIsAPleasure

Firstly congrats and I know the feeling - my first one is due shortly too (2nd December due date)

Obviously I have no experience to draw on but the advice to wait and see how you feel when the baby arrives seems sound - I’m happy to admit I have no idea exactly what it will be like and that I’ll have to see how some things pan out

One thing to consider is really how important that weekend is compared to other things that may be coming up. It sounds like you’ve accepted you need to reign it in, so you’d be wise to pick and choose your battles. Mine is bad timing in some respects - I have 3 stag dos to go on next year (my own plus 2 of my best friends) which I can’t envisage missing so am fully accepting any other nights out are going to be few and far between


1st December due date for us. I'm the same, no idea what to expect, what will happen or how I'll manage haha.

See I'm a bit sad cos when I go out it is usually just for football, apart from that I hardly ever go away/have nights out.

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TWTD dads... on 13:41 - Nov 20 with 4790 viewschicoazul

I've tried to justify it, and say she can have a weekend away or whatever.


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TWTD dads... on 13:42 - Nov 20 with 4784 viewsC_HealyIsAPleasure

TWTD dads... on 13:38 - Nov 20 by SitfcB

1st December due date for us. I'm the same, no idea what to expect, what will happen or how I'll manage haha.

See I'm a bit sad cos when I go out it is usually just for football, apart from that I hardly ever go away/have nights out.


May see you in the hospital in that case, I’ll look out for the ears!

In that case, it may be worth discussing and trying to find a compromise to allow you to go, but you may need to sacrifice a couple of other games or at the very least not drink for them. I’d still consider if it’s really worth it or if you’re better off banking some brownie points and relenting on this one

Also - incredibly unlikely, but worth bearing in mind we are currently challenging the playoffs...

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TWTD dads... on 13:57 - Nov 20 with 4744 viewsfooters

TWTD dads... on 13:30 - Nov 20 by hoppy

But you'd stated it was within 24 hours of his birth, and I assumed he wasn't born a 36 year old...


It was a long pregnancy.

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TWTD dads... on 14:00 - Nov 20 with 4740 viewsPJH

TWTD dads... on 13:30 - Nov 20 by hoppy

But you'd stated it was within 24 hours of his birth, and I assumed he wasn't born a 36 year old...


No but you might also have assumed from my post that he was still a Junior Blue.
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TWTD dads... on 14:05 - Nov 20 with 4732 viewsBasuco

TWTD dads... on 13:38 - Nov 20 by BOjK

It is true what they say. The first 18 years are the worst.


After that they get very expensive, but on the up side it is nice when the taxi service is returned.
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TWTD dads... on 14:10 - Nov 20 with 4729 viewsFrimleyBlue

TBF mate, Feb is a few months away, have a good chat, maybe book some time off work before or after you go as family time.

What I would do is then discuss outside of this, how you'll balance work, family, football going forwards. It can be a breaker if not discussed properly. You may have however a dependent GF who enjoys her time alone, with that, you'll prob have free reign come football days, if however she's more of a 'family' time kinda lady, I think you'll find you'll get to the home ones but may have to knock the away ones on the head.

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TWTD dads... on 14:12 - Nov 20 with 4732 viewsBasuco

Edit: You don't know how easy or difficult your baby will be yet, our first born was sleeping through the night after a few weeks but second one made up for that easy run big time, waking 6 or 8 times a night every night for 2 1/2 years, babies are very individual, how you cope with your child may well make your decision very easy. Sleep deprivation can be very tough on both of you.
There is not a lot you can do care wise for the first year or so, nappies and feeding are the womens domain, the most important part for a Dad is the late afternoon / evening shift of entertaining and keeping an eye on him/her to give Mum a bit of a break.
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TWTD dads... on 14:20 - Nov 20 with 4706 viewsusm

Feb should be fine, but you will have to pick and choose future days away. If you are reasonable/sensible about it, there shouldnt be an issue, but if she is saying you"cant" go, then thats where the problem lies.

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TWTD dads... on 14:24 - Nov 20 with 4697 viewsBOjK

TWTD dads... on 14:12 - Nov 20 by Basuco

Edit: You don't know how easy or difficult your baby will be yet, our first born was sleeping through the night after a few weeks but second one made up for that easy run big time, waking 6 or 8 times a night every night for 2 1/2 years, babies are very individual, how you cope with your child may well make your decision very easy. Sleep deprivation can be very tough on both of you.
There is not a lot you can do care wise for the first year or so, nappies and feeding are the womens domain, the most important part for a Dad is the late afternoon / evening shift of entertaining and keeping an eye on him/her to give Mum a bit of a break.
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"There is not a lot you can do care wise for the first year or so, nappies and feeding are the womens domain"

Hello old bean. Didn't know you were an ITFC fan.

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TWTD dads... on 14:41 - Nov 20 with 4682 viewsBluebell

TWTD dads... on 14:12 - Nov 20 by Basuco

Edit: You don't know how easy or difficult your baby will be yet, our first born was sleeping through the night after a few weeks but second one made up for that easy run big time, waking 6 or 8 times a night every night for 2 1/2 years, babies are very individual, how you cope with your child may well make your decision very easy. Sleep deprivation can be very tough on both of you.
There is not a lot you can do care wise for the first year or so, nappies and feeding are the womens domain, the most important part for a Dad is the late afternoon / evening shift of entertaining and keeping an eye on him/her to give Mum a bit of a break.
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“There is not a lot you can do care wise for the first year or so, nappies and feeding are the woman’s domain”



Can I just mention babies are rarely breast fed for ‘a year or so’ and men can change nappies when they are a few hours old.
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TWTD dads... on 14:43 - Nov 20 with 4677 viewsitfcjoe

TWTD dads... on 14:12 - Nov 20 by Basuco

Edit: You don't know how easy or difficult your baby will be yet, our first born was sleeping through the night after a few weeks but second one made up for that easy run big time, waking 6 or 8 times a night every night for 2 1/2 years, babies are very individual, how you cope with your child may well make your decision very easy. Sleep deprivation can be very tough on both of you.
There is not a lot you can do care wise for the first year or so, nappies and feeding are the womens domain, the most important part for a Dad is the late afternoon / evening shift of entertaining and keeping an eye on him/her to give Mum a bit of a break.
[Post edited 20 Nov 2017 14:23]


There's a load you can do in the first year as a Dad, my Boy is 13 months and I'd like to think I've done lots - changed hundreds of nappies, made hundreds of bottles up, lots of feeds, lots of bathing, weekend overnight shifts.....

It's becoming a difficult time of the year for me, Mrs going back to work in January and she's starting to give out about me doing too much in the evenings, which I think is a bit unfair but am having to suck it up a bit!

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